Rules for dating your neighbor
I have been very lucky living where I live. There is no shortage of beautiful women in this area, and some just live in my building!
However, there is a bad side. Hanging out with a neighbor can have its benefits, but things can get ugly fast and it leaves you with fewer options than usual. No sweatshirt. Let’s see how to go out with a neighbor and not create a bad situation.
The first thing to consider is this: how well do you handle breakups? Are yours generally good, or are they ugly, explosive stuff? In the long run, you’ll want to take a hard look at how you handle these things. If you part badly, you will have to deal with her regularly.
On the contrary, you must know her quite well, since you are making a decision about the possibility of the same thing happening.
Listen to how he talks about other people. If she is petty, scheming, and betrays a lot, things are likely to end badly. And if he mentions an ex-boyfriend, pay attention to that too.
Normally I wouldn’t make a big deal out of these things at the start of a relationship, but this is a bit of thin ice you’ll be stepping on.
Once you’ve decided, you’ll want to talk about the potential situation. I recommend approaching him by reminding him that you are both mature adults. It is a good frame to accompany. See how he reacts. If she agrees and she shows that she understands the risk, that’s good. She won’t prevent an explosion, but she will have a chance to tread carefully and at least see trouble coming.
You will need to set some boundaries when it comes to privacy. It will be difficult, since she is right next door. Do you have a bad habit of stopping every time? Do any of you work from home?
There is a serious risk of getting upset immensely if you are not careful.
Also look how close it is. Is he in the apartment next door? Some downstairs, or on another floor? Cross the street? This is important, as the closer you are, the more you invade your privacy.
It’s a lot to consider, but believe me, these things are important. You don’t want World War III to happen in your building. It is not nice to your neighbors and can make your life hell. If it gets bad enough, you may need to move.
That said, there’s a lot of obvious fun you can have. Its proximity is very close and allows a lot of privacy. Dating can be as easy as walking down the aisle!
The most important part of all this is to use your judgment. Also, be careful. A little planning and some intelligence will go a long way. Be responsible for the situation and deal with any problems that arise.
You can still have a GREAT relationship this way, just be smart!
