How To Get Your Asian Ex Girlfriend Back
There are many “how to get your ex girlfriend back” guides on the internet, but if you find yourself in the aftermath of a relationship with an Asian girlfriend and want her back, the approach may be a little different. Hopefully this article will help save your relationship and maybe teach you a thing or two about interracial love, Asian women, and yourself.
The first is the first. As with any problem worth tackling, you should approach it with a clear head, ready to see things logically, not emotionally. That can be tremendously difficult to do if you suffer from a broken heart and are in deep emotional pain. No one but you will know if you are ready to tackle the problem, just keep in mind that if you are still unable to think clearly due to the pain, it is better to postpone the search for a solution until a better day.
The truth is that no matter how painful a breakup has been, normal people bounce back. Think of all the times you’ve had your heart broken in your life. You recovered, didn’t you? So acknowledge the fact that you’re in pain, know that the pain is only in your head (your heart isn’t really broken, of course, or you’ll be dead), and thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, most of that pain, if not all of it, is self-pity. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, take it easy and get on with your life. You’ll have to move on sooner or later anyway, so you better do it now.
Now that you’re thinking clearly, you have an important question to decide on. Ask yourself: do you really want to continue the relationship? It’s worth it? Don’t assume that the best thing to do right now is to work to get it back. Instead, find out first if you really want her back and why. Take a piece of paper and write, in two columns, the pros and cons of the relationship with your Asian girlfriend when it was still going well. We all make this evaluation of things in our lives constantly, day by day, above all things. This is how we make our decisions. In fact, we get so used to it that we no longer pay attention, and most of the things we decide, we do by instinct or by habit. Getting your girlfriend back is too important to do it that way, so it makes the decision process that much better when we write things down. It forces us to analyze more and gain a better, more realistic understanding of the things that matter.
Having done that, are you still trying to figure out how to get your Asian ex girlfriend back? Good. It’s time to work on a plan. This is where the clear head comes in. Taking a new sheet of paper, she writes down, as honestly as she can, why you think the breakup happened in the first place. There may be a major argument that marked the end of the relationship, but there may be other things that led to the argument. Put on your analytical thinking cap, pretend you’re a detective examining the facts to come up with a solution. Again, be totally and brutally honest. Was the problem something of yours? Maybe the way you treat her? Or maybe the problem is with your Asian girlfriend and the way she treats you.
Next, think of possible solutions to the problem. Think of real solutions, don’t adapt to something you don’t like about her just to fix things. If he cheats on you, don’t tell him it’s okay and turn a blind eye, thinking his conscience will make him stop. If you’re the one cheating, don’t just say you’ll never cheat again because deep down you know it will never work in the long run. Again, there’s that possibility that maybe it’s best not to be together.
Also, think about the time frame you have to get your plan up and running. Generally, the longer the relationship lasted before you broke up with her, the more time you have to work things out. But don’t assume that you have all the time in the world, you can also assume that it really is better to be apart.
If you are a Western man, having a girlfriend who grew up in a completely different society and culture can mean a profound change in attitude, a commitment to better understand how Asians think and function, and how they differ from their Western counterparts. If you think you are ready to make that commitment, then you are ready to get your Asian ex girlfriend back and make changes for the better.
