Hasn’t he said I love you yet? What this really means for your relationship
There is a very special moment in every romantic relationship where a woman holds her breath. It’s when your man tells you that he loves you. Ideally, he will say it first and it will happen in a wonderful and memorable place. You’ll remember it all about the second those fateful words left her lips. The shirt she wore, how she combed her hair and how her cologne smelled will become important nuances of the moment in which they both knew they were going to be life partners. It all sounds so dreamy and ideal, doesn’t it? From experience, most of us know that this is usually not the case. He usually blurts out the words at the most inopportune moment, like when we’re stopped at a red light or during a football game. Regardless of the circumstances of the delivery, the words remain meaningful and the relationship changes. Unfortunately, not all men reach a point where they feel comfortable sharing those words. If it’s been months or even years and he still hasn’t said I love you, what exactly does that mean for you and your future with him?
Never forget how different you and your man are
I have often heard women say that they wish men were more like them. In some ways that would be wonderful, but essentially we love men because they are men. Your man doesn’t process his feelings the same way you do. If he falls in love with you at first sight, chances are he won’t share that news with you until months into the relationship. The same goes for the man who falls in love with his wife at a slow pace. He won’t give you updates on how he feels. Men just aren’t wired that way.
Sharing deep and meaningful feelings with a man makes him feel emotionally vulnerable. It is very much like you are taking off the armor of your heart and putting yourself in the line of fire. If you don’t react favorably to his statement of adoration or if you say something hurtful, it will hurt like nothing else can. A man needs to feel very secure in his relationship before he is ready to blurt out that he loves you.
Pay close attention to your actions rather than your words
Much can be gained by paying close attention to how your man acts around you. There are certain behavior patterns that sync up with a man who is truly madly in love. You may believe he’s not in love unless he says the words, but don’t discount how he treats you. For a man who struggles to open up to the point where he feels very vulnerable, his actions can give you great insight into what is in his heart.
A telling example is that of the man who rushes through the day so that he can spend as much time as possible with the woman he adores. Nothing matters as much to him as seeing his smiling face at the end of his workday. The same goes for the guy who sends a few texts or emails during the day. His mind is clearly on the woman he cares about. Any small gesture like this should be seen for who he is and that is a strong sign that his heart is focused on the woman in his life.
See his commitment to you as a sign of what is in his heart
If a man has stopped dating other women and his focus is always only on you, he is in love. Men are known for wanting to play the field. Once a man stops looking, thinking, and seeing other women, you need to take note of that. He may not have said that he loves you openly, but the fact that he has lost interest in other attractive women says a lot about how he sees you.
This is especially clear if he suggests that you not see other guys or only go on exclusive dates. If he mentions this, it obviously means he wants you for himself and that usually has a lot more to do with a man’s heart than his ego.
A man in love wants to draw a closed circle around the woman who is the center of his world. He doesn’t want the threat of any other man on the horizon and he doesn’t have eyes for any other woman either. His focus is clear and he will ask you to focus on him as well.
Beware of a man who doesn’t seem emotionally connected to you
As much as you want to hope that he loves you, even if he hasn’t said it yet, you have to take into account the fact that his reluctance to express it is based on the fact that he just doesn’t feel it. . If you’ve told your boyfriend you love him and are met with deathly silence, or he changes the subject very quickly, it’s easy to assume that he’s not in love and that he’s just very uncomfortable talking about it. topic at all.
Some men will go out of their way to avoid any discussion of feelings. They’ll say things like “I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet” or “love is overrated.” If your guy has expressed similar feelings to you, you have every right to be put off by it. He is telling you, in a very roundabout and merciless way, that he just doesn’t feel the same things you do.
It is up to you to determine whether or not you want to continue investing in a relationship like this. Of course, over time his position may change and he may decide that he really loves you. Maybe a little time apart, like in a short-term relationship, a “breakup” might help him see the light. However, there is a chance that it won’t.
Just remember that all men are different and while some are quick to say those three meaningful words, other men just can’t imagine saying “I love you” to any woman unless they’re about to propose. It’s up to you to decipher your man’s actions and read between files to really see what’s in his heart.
